10 Biggest Mistakes Made In Relationships

#10 Clinging Too Much

Everyone needs their own personal space. If you love your partner you should trust them enough to give them their space and not try to invade every second of their life. This isn’t the case when you’re married. Marriage is a blessing and after marriage you and your partner share the same life together. But when you’re in a relationship, you can’t suddenly take over their life unless it’s a mutual decision. Don’t make them feel suffocated and don’t make them regret the decision of being with you.

#9 Being Jealous Of Each Other

Relationships should never have the element of jealousy involved. You love your partner, you are not supposed to be jealous if they have a better job than you or a better social circle than you. You are supposed to be their strength and make them bigger in life rather than complain about how you can’t compete with them. It’s not a competition. Your partner will do everything in their power to make you a stronger person and you should do the same.

#8 Listening To Others More Than Your Partner

Bringing a third person in the middle of your relationship won’t always end well. If you are facing a problem with your partner and you start asking the world for help it will obviously create a lot of trust issues between you and your partner. Couples Therapy is different, they are trained professionals and their only job is to make things work between you two. But when it comes to friends, everyone will give you their own opinion and it might make your mind think in too many directions which leads to over-thinking. And we all know where over-thinking takes us.

#7 Leaving Arguments Unsolved

We’ve seen this happen a lot around us and it has happened to us as well. When an argument is left unsolved in the middle, it won’t go away. It will keep growing and come out in the form of a huge fight which will eventually lead to break up. Whenever any problem arises, make sure you solve it then and there. If you forgive your partner’s mistakes, forget their mistakes and never bring them up in future arguments, it will only mean you never forgave them in the first place.

#6 Taking It Too Easy

Some couples start off amazing and slowly lose the spark they had. It could be because they don’t find each other as interesting as they did before, it could be because of someone else being in their mind, it could be because of a lot of reasons but it shouldn’t happen in the first place. Keep the romance alive and be the same partner you were when you first fell in love with them. Keep the romance going and make the memories stronger.

#5 A Lot Of Giving And No Getting

I’ve seen a lot of relationships in which one of the two do as much as they can to make their partner happy while the partner forgets everything they did for them in the middle of every argument and every rocky phase. Relationships are all about give and take. If you don’t cherish your partner for all the effort and time they spend on you, they won’t be around for too long because someone else will make them feel appreciated. Start giving back, love them the way they love you or even more. Cherish them before it’s too late.

#4 Not Letting Go Of The Past

Everyone has a past. It is wise to clear everything up even before getting into a relationship with someone to leave no room for doubts and assumptions later. Don’t cling to your partner’s past either, the past shouldn’t matter to you. You love someone for who they are not the baggage they carry. If you start snooping on them, it will only make you see things you shouldn’t have seen in the first place and it will break your partner’s trust because it was the past. Live in the present and work for an amazing future.

#3 Assumptions

The word “assumption” actually makes me cringe. It is one of the scariest things to have in a relationship and it leads to nothing but a bad ending to a perfect story. Once you start assuming, you will make a habit of it and you will soon create an entire mountain of assumptions on your partner’s shoulders. Stop assuming and start asking if there’s anything you have doubts about. Relationships are built on trust, not assumptions. Just because they’ve made mistakes in the past doesn’t mean you just assume they’ll do it in the future.

#2 Faking Interests

When you love someone, you love them for who they are. You love each and every little thing they do because that’s who they are. You try making them a better person by making their bad habits go away. But it doesn’t mean you start pretending to like what they do just to make them smile. Faking your interests in them will only make matters worse for later. Tell them exactly how you feel about them, their social life, their friends, their family, because you don’t fake in love if you mean it.

#1 Thinking Of Marriage As The Answer To Everything

Some couples tend to think marriage will end the issues they have brewing up between them. Marriage is one of the biggest moves in life and it changes lives. But it is not wise to take the step before knowing if it will last or not. Some couples tend to fight a lot, on a daily basis, and they think once they’re married all of their problems will suddenly vanish. That’s not the case, marry ONLY when you’re sure of it and not just to save a dying relationship.

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Eight Things To Do To Live Life To The Fullest

By Mel Sim for Yahoo! Southeast Asia – Tue, Sep 3, 2013 11:20 AM PHT

We’ve all done it – looked at a friend’s Facebook profile or blog and say, “I wished I could do that too.” Always comparing your life to someone else’s and finding it coming up short? It doesn’t have to be that way. The only thing between you and a life less ordinary is well, you!

So step out of your comfort zone and embrace life to the fullest. Start with these eight items on our must-do list to live life to the fullest.

1. Travel! Go somewhere at least once a year

Nothing broadens the mind more than travel so by all means, book yourself a holiday to enjoy what the cultures of the world have to offer. Always dreamed of going somewhere exotic? Work towards it. There’s no place that is beyond your reach (yes, you can even be a space tourist!). Don’t have the means to travel halfway round the world or even go to space? Try joining traveling contests or save up so you can visit your dream destination.

2. Achieve something. Document it.

Always wanted to run the marathon? Why not make it your goal to do it! Life is all about achievements so if it has always been your dream to clock in 5km or even the full 42.5km, know that it is possible. Or if it has always been your dream to build something from scratch, lay out the best possible plans to get it done. Remember, most times, it is the journey towards your achievement that matters most. So document it – blog, video logs, photos – anything that you can come back to years later and say, “Yup, I did it!”

3. Be passionate about something. Make money out of it!
Jealous of that friend who is selling his comic arts online and making a fortune out of it? Chances are he’s probably passionate about drawing, which is why he is so good at it and is getting noticed for it too! So if you have something that you’re passionate about—like baking or making something from scratch—by all means, put your heart into it and do it well. When you’re passionate about something, the end result shows for it. And people will want to get a piece of that passion you’ve put out there for sale.

4. Blog it!

Wish you could have a blog that is being read by someone halfway across the world? Guess what—you can! Blogging is one of the most fun ways to connect with other people as well as share your life. It can also be a great way to make some income, especially if you’re blogging about something completely unique or have a fun blogging style that people can relate too. There are many things you can blog about— food, travel, your pets. Just keep updating it so that your readers will always have something new to read.

5. Do something you’re afraid of

Got a fear of heights? Hate being in the limelight? Face your fears head on and do something that completely scares you. You’ll soon realize that there is really nothing to be afraid of – singing in front of a crowd isn’t that bad, after all—and who knows, you may just enjoy facing your fears that it will soon be something you’ll look forward to doing.

6. Volunteer. Do some good

It doesn’t always have to be about you. Spend a weekend every month giving back to charity, whether it is volunteering at a charity home or helping a friend or a neighbor in need. Not only will it make the other person feel good, that act of kindness will do wonder for your soul.

7. Adopt a pet!

Because looking after a four-legged creature like a dog or a cat will not only make you feel like a better human, but it is said to also feed you with feel-good factors and stress-reducing hormones. Besides, there’s no better feeling in the world than coming home to a pet who thinks you’re the world.

8. Experience something different whenever possible

Life is all about experiences. And this includes eating a food that you’ll never think of trying, picking up a new language, watching a foreign movie, or even trying out something you’ll normally not do. Go on—do yourself a favor and give everything a try at least once. This way, you can actually say, “Been there, done that. What’s next?”

 

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